The Over-utilization of Giving Up

Keep on trucking.  Never give up.  You can do it! Believe! 

Easier said than done, yes?  It is soooo much easier to grab your phone and watch someone else go through Hell.  Ignore everything that would move your day and life forward.  So disconnected it makes you feel connected. 

This is not an advice blog.  Just a gal expressing her True View.  At the core, I think people give up way too often.  I have been guilty of said action more than once. All I want to do here is explain myself and get your thoughts.

I am a seasoned (amateur) athlete.  I love to play golf, tennis, softball. Love to bowl, workout and take long walks on the beach. I have many irons in the fire, from clothing design to a book of poetry, to mentoring, to volunteering. My work experience and expertise is Human Resources and Payroll Systems and Processes. I haven’t given up on ANY of these ideas as a whole. I just need a shot of perseverance and control on the smaller tasks that lead to success.

Perseverance and control.  In spite of.  Because of.  Or lack thereof.  Perseverance is crucial to not giving up.  Control is the ability to impact momentum. 

Here is an example of me giving up, losing control:

I gave up on the golf course, in match play, during a very important team event. I was angry at a decision made where I had no control or recourse. My tee box was moved 1,100 yards back – I was told 10 days before the event. Blah blah blah.

Lost all control on the golf course. Being a baby.

Maybe the opponents could care less about me and simply had the tees setup in the back all along. Whatever or whoever, the issue stuck with me the entire day. I persevered to make it on the green. I stopped short (gave up) in my revenge planning and didn’t plan to fight on the green.

Here’s an example of me not giving up:

Hole-in-one January 27, 2019
5th Hole par 3 Los Verdes, CA

Same sport (golf just happens to be my passion at the moment). I was playing in another team event. For whatever reason, we were struggling as a team. At the par 3 5th hole, we had some time to chat. Kathy says, “..this is the hole I got my hole-in-one”. I thought Wow! At 134 yards over a sand trap, that’s pretty good. Tanya and I talked about our holes-in-one over at The Lakes in El Segundo. The holes are much shorter there. Steve said his kids and wife have had multiple holes-in-one. He has yet to get one. Aw.

Although we all knew the safe shot was to land to the left of the hole, at the bottom of the hill, I wanted to do better than that. I wanted to take control. So I decided to use my draw and grabbed my 7-iron and hit the ball. I hadn’t thought of getting a hole-in-one. Simply because we were just talking about it and I got one 81 days earlier. However, I knew the best shot to make was the draw over the sand (didn’t give up). I hadn’t thought far enough ahead to see it in the hole. I wanted to hit my best shot!! And I did!

Should I expect to get a hole-in-one every par 3? No! Should I work hard and practice and learn the game so I have a better chance of making the best shot, an ace? Yes!!!

How do you gain control? Perseverance: practice – work hard – work harder – work more!

Jealous?

The thing with Serena over the US Open Finals triggered a slew of emotions from not only the sports world, but everyone else who has an opinion on what is appropriate or what is acceptable.  

I want to meet Serena Williams and give her a great big hug.  I admire her even more.  I am a multi-sport athlete and I love to win.  More importantly, I am a proud woman with enough success to justify defending myself when my character and/or integrity is attacked.  Serena was attacked and she appropriately defended herself. 

Whether accidentally or on purpose, people want winners to lose.  And when in a position to control an outcome, people take advantage.  But why do we want those on top to lose?  Jealous?  Doesn’t have to be a bad word.

Go Serena!!!  

In Search of Golf Attire for Today’s Woman

For those of us gals over 5’8″ who weigh over 150 pounds, who love to play golf and look as good as we strive to play, we seek a line of golf attire that:

  1. Fits our bodies
  2. Is functional
  3. Looks great
  4. Is affordable

Michelle Wie, the Korda sisters, Paula Creamer, Lexi Thompson.  They’re all tall professional golfers.  And they look spectacular on the golf course.  It helps that they are all slim and make a good amount of money (still not anywhere near as much as the men make but that’s a separate blog perhaps in the near future).  I have seen them in person and as much as I admire their golf game, I also appreciate how good they look in their golf clothes.  Where do they get their golf attire?

I buy my long pants from the men’s section of the sporting goods store or golf shop.  Nike has a pair of stretchy Bermuda shorts that I love that also work for tennis.  However, they only come in black, grey, white and tan.  As far as tops, once I find the one or two racks of women’s golf clothing, I see the same styles over and over.

My friend and I met Brittany Lincicome in April 2018 just after her 2nd round at the Wilshire Country Club.  That’s me on the left.  My friend Tanya on the right.  Brittany looks great in her loose-fitting top and snug long pants.   Where does Brittany Lincicome shop?

Designers!  Get it together!  Check out the golf courses around the world (well, those in So Cal anyway) and talk with the women in the plain baggie clothing.  I betcha they would love to wear something different, something fun, with bright colors, fitted, but not too fitted (we need to ensure not to emphasize the roll(s)), and functional.  Oh – and affordable.  What’s so hard about that?!!

Please contact me here.  I’ll buy the first round (of drinks).